‘You're going sailing now ...how to get her to go with you’ by Trish Lambert made me think of my friend Carol, with no experience, she has just taken off on an adventure of a life time with a sailor she fell in love with .....
This is Trish's experience and very wise advise for the Skipper ... but take note as the 1st time sailor you may have to communicate some things to him or get him to read this article.....
My introduction to sailing was probably about the best a potential first mate could have: A two-week bareboat charter in the British Virgin Islands.
Palm-studded shores, white sand beaches,
great diving-and those trade winds! I got hooked, and came back home ready to
jump on board and learn everything I needed to know about boats.
Some months later, we went on the water again-this time a summer trip on the Chesapeake Bay. On the way to St. Michaels on Maryland's Eastern Shore, we were overtaken by a thunderstorm that scared me to pieces.
I didn't yet know enough about the physics of sailing to understand that releasing the main sheet would bring the boat back upright (heck, I didn't even know what a main sheet was!), so I trembled in the cockpit while the port scuppers went under water.
I'm glad I took on the challenge of becoming the first mate in a boating marriage and I love getting out on the water and going sailing whenever I can.
I was lucky. I did things in the right
order. If the Chesapeake charter had been my first boating experience, I know
that I would never have sailed the BVI nor had the chance to experience boating
at its best. And my husband wouldn't have had me as a sailing partner.
My trade-wind memories overruled my thunderstorm experience , so I stuck with
it. Many women, however, first experience the boating world in terrible
Their husbands or boyfriends, boating nuts themselves, either aren't bothered by or have forgotten the multitude of discomforts and hazards perceived by the uninitiated.
They "just bring her along for the ride," and let the chips fall where they may. If luck is with them, the weather is good, the waves are down, and nothing gets hit on the way in or out of the slip.
If not, she gets off the boat as soon as the gunwale is within jumping distance of the dock, walks off, and never looks back.
Unless the damage has already been
done, there is no reason why a boater's significant other can't become a happy
partner on the water.
There is no one right way for her to participate-she can fall anywhere on a spectrum from "full second in command" to "cockpit adornment."
Regardless of her ultimate role, her level of enthusiasm greatly depends on the skipper's attitude and expectations.
What can a boating guy do to stack the deck in favor of having a boating wife or girlfriend?
Follow these suggestions,
and you will be on your way to having a willing and eager boating partner who will look forward to going sailing with you.
Regardless of its length, plan your trip. If it's your first time out, plan on traveling waters with which you are already familiar.
Decide on your destination and your route, and enter the appropriate
waypoints into your nav system. Check the necessary charts and guides and
be sure to bring them along with you.
If you are still in the "introduction to boating" stage, going sailing only when conditions are good. If the weather forecast is bad or even iffy, abort the mission and stay at the dock.
Later, depending on how involved she wants to get with the boat, you
might go out in bad weather on purpose to learn how to handle thing-but when
you get to that point, she will be fully committed and willing to deal with
some discomfort in exchange for the experience.
Even on the nicest days, it can get chilly on the water, and being chilled with no way to fix the condition can impair enjoyment of the boating experience.
Have additional clothes on board that she can put on if
needed-coat, sweater, hat, gloves, and socks, even extra pants in case she gets
Forget crackers from the box accompanied by aerosol cheese. Provision for the trip and come up with menus for whatever snacks or meals you plan to have on board.
This may be an
area she will want to take over later, but for now act the host and cater to
Wouldn't it be great if you could really do that? Dolphins playing on the bow are always big with boat passengers. Even if you don't get visited by marine mammals, though, you can heighten her enjoyment by pointing out any interesting sights or animals that you encounter.
Be sure to carry binoculars and a bird guide with you when you are going sailing.
If she wants to do something other than just sit in the cockpit, be ready to give her a job.
The first time out, give her the helm for a while and let her get a feel for the boat. If she gets hooked and wants to do more, include her in trip planning and navigation when you are going sailing.
Come up with an efficient anchoring process that she has a part in; ditto for docking. Also, cede the galley to her if she wants it.
If you are taking a multi-day trip, plan for an evening of entertainment, DVDs, music, dominoes, cards, board games-it could be pastimes you already enjoy on land, or something new. All part of going sailing!
There is nothing more off putting to a novice boater than head fumes. Make sure that your boat doesn't have unpleasant odors (even ones you've gotten used to).
As part of your pre-trip preparation, pump out holding tanks and flush your plumbing with disinfecting cleaner. Air things out well so that nothing but freshness greets her nostrils as she steps on board.
Keep up the good work, and you and the
woman in your life will have a great time on the water, she will be eager to go with you when you are going sailing.
I think both partners have a lot to learn from Trish Lamberts wise words here.
Carol and Danny set sail from the Gold Coast on the East side of Australia in Danny’s catamaran heading north ... they planed to stop at tropical islands and exotic places along the way.
Danny had no idea of these basic tips to make her enjoy the sailing experience. Carol thought she just had to cook the meals for him .... being down in the galley made her sea sick and putting up with all his messy mates and having no sailing experience was just too much.
Her expectations were different from reality and half way on the voyage she abandoned ship and went home.
Trish Lambert's shortest bio is on
Twitter, where she is billed as "Fervent champion of solo biz owners who
want to stay solo and successful, woman of high, unmodulated energy, sometime
Trish started 4R Marketing , a home-base marketing and copy writing consultancy, in 2005 and built it into a 6-figure business in less than two years. In addition to running 4R Marketing, Trish now works with other at-home service professionals through her coaching practice whose tagline is "It's all about freedom-no excuses!" Article Source!
There are some really good tips from someones personal experience on how to get her to go sailing ... more on the subject .... OK!